Confidence & Self-Esteem

Lilly, age 51, suffered from depression, low self-esteem, and an inability to cope with people she described as “dysfunctional,” with whom she would periodically have to interact and who reminded her of her mother. As a child, she experienced both emotional and physical abuse along with chaos and inconsistency from her mother. Her father was not present in her life. 

Lilly had been in counseling for 20 years when she came to see me. Facing a major life change involving increased job responsibilities and moving out of state, her goal was to be able to navigate it with confidence and to gain the ability to take decisive action. Lilly wanted to be able to think rationally and respond logically to a situation while still feeling her emotions.

Our work together focused on the Five Step Learning Process of Edu-K, incorporating into her sessions the 26 Brain Gym movements, work with the meridians, Touch for Health points, and NeuroLinguistic Programming. A multi-faceted approach worked well for Lilly because of the complexity of her history. This approach allowed for both a release of long-standing reactive behaviors and a change in belief patterns and habits that resulted from neural networks established in her childhood. Repatterning of the cross-lateral connections, meridian work, and the reframing of language patterns through NLP shifted the flow of energy into new patterns of thinking and behaving.

After just one session, Lilly felt she was already "dealing with things in a different way.” She was not getting so “hooked” by other people’s behavior and was able to think through a situation vs. simply reacting emotionally when she was upset by someone’s behavior. Much to her delight, Lilly was even feeling less frustrated and angry when talking with her mother.

As our work together continued, those beliefs and emotional patterns established in Lilly’s childhood – fear and a gut level sense that she was not safe anywhere – began to subside. Lilly began to openly express frustrations to her husband and move through her feelings, rather than bottling them up to explode later. Because of her new sense of confidence and safety, their dynamic of solving disagreements changed dramatically and their relationship grew stronger.

Lilly courageously accepted the new position out of state. With the work done during our six sessions together Lilly was no longer anxious or stressed when facing the big changes ahead of her. She was now navigating things with greater ease, less emotional upset, and more compassion for her husband’s struggles. Additionally, Lilly was now more patient and compassionate with her mother, and their latest visit together was “pleasant and fun" because she was no longer feeling “wrapped up in drama.”